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The Law of Attraction Brings Gifts
By D’Arcy Vanderpool, MA, MFT, PCC
There is a lot of talk these days about The Secret and what we might be attracting into our lives. Some celebrities are attracting situations that give them the opportunity to enter rehab and clean up certain aspects of their lives. Still others attract more difficult legal situations. Paris Hilton is a good example of someone who has had the opportunity to learn some lessons about life and use her time in jail to make some positive changes. Martha Stewart is another person who has taken a difficult situation and turned it into lessons for herself and gifts for herself and others. You may not have such difficult situations that you are attracting. What are you attracting into your life? What lessons are you learning? What gifts are you being given?
Set Your Intention
I have attracted a wonderfully organized assistant to help me with some business projects. My, what a gift she is! I feel she is a blessing in my life—making everything easier, thinking of creative ideas, keeping me on task, anticipating my needs, following through on details, getting things done that have been in the wings for awhile, etc. To attract her, I set my intention to have a capable assistant who would have particular research and computer skills. I wrote it down, I made a long list of the things I wanted her to do. I told others about it. I thought about it a lot. And then she appeared. Using the combination of intention and action will set your energy to attract like energy.
What You Put Out There Will come Back to You
Something else I attracted that wasn’t such a delight was a distancing in a close friendship. This was hurtful, but it has been a gift. I learned about the sensitivities of another. In learning to be more careful about my words, I have been better able to choose the loving and understanding path instead of the hurtful or selfish path. This too has been a blessing because I can catch my behaviors without losing the friendship. This opportunity for growth brought some warm fuzzies but before that, we had some porky pine quills and rose thorns. We all have to remember, “What goes around comes around.” Putting our energies into good communication, being honest, and demonstrating caring are requirements for the nurturing and growth of ourselves and our relationships.
What is the Hidden Treasure You are Attracting?
I wonder what you have been attracting. Look at the things that are draining you and see if you can find the reason you might be dealing with them. What choices did you make that may have brought these into your life? Can you find the lesson or what you may have to learn from these? How about looking at the things that might be hurting you or making you angry? How did you create these? What can you learn from these? What gifts can you find in these situations? Is there a person you have attracted into your life that is creating some difficulties? That person may be coming as your teacher, bringing with him or her, an opportunity to learn something you have not yet mastered in life? Can you see what the gold is among all the rocks? Some of these experiences may not appear to be good on first examination, but a reasonable assessment may reveal hidden treasure for your personal development.
Take Action for your Growth
If you are willing, try this exercise to take some personal growth steps today. Select an upsetting experience and write how it is a lesson from which you can learn. State what specific three things you have learned that may improve your life in some way. Really let yourself feel the joy of receiving these gifts. You might even think of them as birthday gifts from the universe. Then write a commitment to do a particular action that will demonstrate one of the lessons you’ve learned. Enjoy your gifts!
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